Let’s discuss it. Let’s open up this conversation!
Why do we judge ourselves so critically? We are forever dwelling on areas of ourselves that need improvement that we forget to celebrate our most important achievements.
We’re better than we allow ourselves to believe we are.
So what is the current definition of success?
Suc·cess \sək-ˈses\ noun the attainment of fame, wealth, or social status.
It saddens me to hear and read about how today’s modern society perceives success. It has become all about winning or losing in life; who has done better. And it all comes down to possession, power and prestige.
A few years ago, Alain de Botton spoke about our ideas of success and failures at a Ted conference. As witty as he was about the topic, he was also brutally correct.
I’m drawn to a lovely quote by St. Augustine in “The City of God,” where he says, “It’s a sin to judge any man by his post.” In other words, hold your horses when you’re coming to judge people. You don’t necessarily know what someone’s true value is. When we think about failing in life, when we think about failure, one of the reasons why we fear failing is not just a loss of income, a loss of status. What we fear is the judgment and ridicule of others. And it exists.
So what does success mean to you?
It could be getting your dream job, ace-ing that exam, being able to speak in front of a crowd, or just being able to get out of bed in the morning.
Being true to oneself and living authentically is to live successfully.
Ever heard of the phrase that we are the sum of the people we surround ourselves with? It’s true! So surround yourself with the right ones. Those that make you happy. Those that support you and who’ll love you unconditionally, regardless of your success or failures in life.
True happiness also comes from filling your time with meaningful pursuits that you’re passionate about.
Your journey to success is far more valuable than the destination. “It’s not about the goal. It’s about becoming that type of person that can accomplish the goal,” Tony Robbins.
Never stop learning. Never stop growing. Never become stagnant.
It is in your reach. Own it.
So here’s Strayer’s new definition of success..
happiness derived from good relationships and achieving personal goals.
I’m ready to readdress the definition of success. Are you?
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